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Importance of Christmas

March 2, 2023November 12, 2022
Christmas

Christmas is the time of joy and happiness that we share with our near and dear ones. Family and friends unite to enjoy this festival in full merriment, glorifying the name of God. Christians celebrate Christmas on December 25 every year. The world comes together to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, the son of God. Every Sunday, Christians attend a mass. It is to remember that Jesus Christ sacrificed his life to save us from sins. Then, he died and resurrected again for us. So, the word Christmas comes from Jesus Christ and Mass.

Jesus Chris

The celebration continues till December 26. Christians believe God sent His Son to Earth for us and sacrificed his life to Redeem Humankind. Therefore, people exchange gifts on this special day to remember God’s first gift to Humankind to save us from all evil and forgive our sins. It is the time to be caring, nurture our family and friends, and be thankful for all we have. God is kind to give us the life that we are living. He is blessing us every day with gifts of life, family, friends, peace, happiness, and health. We must appreciate this, glorify God’s omnipotent presence in our lives, and be kind to one another. It is a time for us to slow down. Reflect on the gifts that God has given us. Spend quality time with family decorating the Christmas tree, going for a holiday, and enjoying a big family meal. It helps us stop and retrospect on our life and the fantastic time we are having with our close ones. Christmas is only meaningful because of Jesus Christ. So, if he is celebrated, everything makes sense. Traditions like putting up a Christmas tree that symbolizes his purpose to come to Earth. Hanging lights that signify how he lights up our lives during our dark times and singing carols to worship and glorify His name. Most importantly, we must remember to pray as a family. The goal of Christmas is to purify Grace.

The most popular Christmas gifts are cakes, colourful scarves, knitted sweaters, and wine. Last but not least is the tradition of celebrating Santa Claus. But, of course, the real Christmas Santa is St. Nicholas of Myra. He was a kind-hearted, generous man. Santa Claus is believed to go around at night and give gifts to little children who have been kind and obedient throughout the year. This tradition also celebrates the good in people, appreciating the goodness in everyone. It is a fun-filled festival of warmth and merriment, celebrating everything holy and kind.

History of Christianity

February 7, 2023November 12, 2022
Christianity

Almost 2.4 billion people around the globe follow Christianity. It is the world’s largest religion by population. Nearly 31.2% of the world’s population follows it. Christianity has come from the teachings and death of Jesus Christ. Its beliefs are divided into Roman Catholic Church, Eastern Orthodox Church, and Protestant Church.

Christianity

Christianity is more than just a religious belief. It’s a tradition and culture deeply embedded in Christians. For Christians, the way of living is Christianity. Their faith and practices are not just limited to God but also extend to their social life and how they carry themselves. Even though Jesus Christ is the focal structure, Christianity branches itself into several churches, beliefs, sects, and denomination that creates this religion. They believe in a life of prayer, quiet worship, building churches, and serving people. It was entirely against polytheism and atheism. They firmly believe in salvation and Redemption, and their agent of Redemption is Jesus Christ. Their identity develops as per the essence of God. The journey of life aims to go to heaven. They cleanse their sins and confess to the ‘Father.’ It makes them feel closer to God. They want to possess ideal and selfless qualities in today’s world. It helps them gain inner peace by maintaining religious discipline in their lifestyle. Christians want to be rescued from all evils, and they feel that they have been distanced from the Almighty and only God can help in forgiving their sins and bring them closer to Him. “Essence” is essential for Christians as it allows them to be unique in their identity. Although their faith is historical, they don’t believe in timeless conversation with God. The only way to reach the Divine Power is through his messenger Jesus Christ.

Jesus Christ

It is a whole new culture and practice; its artifacts have been handed down from generation to generation. The representative of Christianity is the church, and the Christians are the body of believers aiming to get closer to God with the constant heavenly guidance of Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ was present in real. He suffered for the sins of the people and was able to be the Chosen One, God’s son. Since there was the physical presence of Jesus Christ, this religion has an element of realism. So, their first and last attention is Jesus Christ, and only He answers all the problems and sadness humans face on Earth. Only He can guide the way of life and help them be happier, at peace, and morally clean from the heart. Hence, Redemption is the sole motive for Christians and can only be achieved through Jesus Christ.

Favorite Christian Podcasts

January 4, 2023November 12, 2022
Christian Podcasts

Looking for a podcast on religion? Here is a collection of Christian podcasts to take into consideration, whether you’re looking to deepen your understanding of the Bible or discover a new, entertaining angle on your faith.

Christian podcasts for adults:

  • Joanna Kimbrel and Stefanie Boyles, the hosts of the podcast Daily Grace, encourage women to delve deeper into their Bible studies and gain a better knowledge of God’s presence in their life.
  • Pray the Word: Host, writer, and pastor David Platt provides quick reflections and prayers that are ideal for your everyday commute.
  • Annie F. Downs That sounds  fun, Christian author and speaker Annie Downs offers her viewpoint on current Christian issues while incorporating guest interviews, chats, and evaluations of books, restaurants, travel destinations, and music.
  • WHOA That’s Good, Sadie Robertson Huff of “Duck Dynasty” is the host of a lighthearted and motivational podcast where she solicits the greatest advice from influential people.
  • Right Side Up: Danielle Strickland, a well-known author, lecturer, and voice on faith and justice, and World Vision have launched a new video podcast called Right Side Up. She examines the invitation of Jesus by examining the Beatitudes and provides suggestions for how to modify our lives in accordance with them. Alongside Latasha Morrison, “Be the Bridge” In the struggle for racial justice, Latasha, a best-selling and award-winning novelist, is a powerful voice.
  • Author and pastor John Mark Comer and author Jefferson Bethke discuss the detrimental consequences of ‘fight hustle and end hurry’ on our spiritual lives and what we can do to overcome them in their book Fight Hustle, End Hurry.
  • Dharius Daniels, M.D. Each week, Dharius and guests discuss issues related to faith, life, and culture.
  • BibleProject: In this well-liked series, which is now accessible in illustrated videos, pastor Tim Mackie and author Jon Collins take listeners on a trip through Scripture texts.

Christian podcasts

Christian podcasts for kids:

  • The Bible is read to children tale by story, and Jesus appears in every one of them.
  • Kids Bible Stories: The podcast shares the Bible with young listeners in an approachable manner, assisting them in making connections about how the Bible pertains to their life.
  • The podcast, titled “Jesus is Better,” encourages young listeners to grow in their faith and ask themselves whether they should follow God’s plan or their own.
  • The Chuck Swindoll creation Paws and Tales tells the stories of woodland creatures who discover the meaning of life and God.

Christian podcasts for parents:

  • Risen Motherhood by Laura Wifler and Emily Jensen discuss the highs and lows of raising children in their book Risen Motherhood.
  • Fathers, this one is for you! Legacy Dads Every subject that affects Christian fathers today is covered in the podcast, including marriage, parenting, societal issues, theology, and more.

4 Companies Radically Shaped by the Faith of Their Owners

December 4, 2022November 12, 2022
The Faith

Christians believes that Monday through Friday belong to the entire world whereas Sundays belongs mainly to the God within any work environment that also focuses production, speed, as well as profitability. But the Bible encourages Christians to lead more balanced lives.


Although Peter Demos started his career as a lawyer, he grew up in the family restaurant. However, his heart yearned for the hospitality sector and the restaurants, which were full of potential and memories. In his thirties, after successfully operating a restaurant for 12 years, he committed his life to Christ. Demos’ ability to become the successful restaurateur he is today, with four Demos’ Restaurant locations and two PDK Southern Kitchen locations, as well as an author, speaker, and the leader of a dozen organisations, was made possible by his initial act of listening to God.

Camp Gladiator’s Jeff Davidson. The day of Jeff Davidson’s wedding marked not just the commencement of his marriage but also the beginning of a collaborative business relationship. Ally ran away for giving the audition for American Gladiator, just few hours of her wedding. She returned in time to walk down the aisle while the meal was being cooked and the flowers were being delivered.

She also won the American Gladiator Grand Championship after few months. Jeff and Ally launched Camp Gladiator with 40 individuals and a stack of cones in a parking lot using the winnings. Camp Gladiator has more than 1,200 trainers who have altered more than 300,000 lives, and known as the nation’s fastest-growing fitness business.

Sam Thevanayagam is a person of warmth and professionalism who is also filled with the Holy Spirit. As the chief executive of Parts Life, Inc., he directs the company’s efforts to locate replacement parts and provide supply chain and obsolescence solutions to numerous military branches, particularly those in the aerospace, automotive, and construction equipment industries. Thevanayagam began his professional life in the auto sector. Then again, he lost his job after 12 years. Thevanayagam recognised he would need to recreate himself as a professional due to a strong non-compete clause. He provided consulting services for a period before founding Parts Life in 2007, just as the recession was getting started. Money was scarce. Thevanayagam suffered with stress as he tried to provide a roof over his family’s head and health insurance for his five kids, three of whom constantly risked the risk of getting hurt playing football.

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In 1988, Joan Maxwell and her husband, Owen, established Regulator Marine. Their sportfishing boats are designed by Owen, and everyone else answers to Joan. Maxwell, the National Marine Manufacturers Association’s first female chair, is familiar with the feeling of being in new waters. In terms of her professional life, she is frequently the only woman in the room because she was the first member of her family to complete college. Maxwell learnt how to develop discipline and accountability within the organisation to carry out her goal in this life-giving, nondiscriminatory environment.

Facts Every Christian Should Know About Peace

November 6, 2022November 2, 2022
Every Christian

Peace is a stress-free state of calmness that comes without hostility and violence. It is commonly used to mean a state of mutual harmony between people or groups and personal relations.

Peace of  God

Having the peace of God, which surpasses all understandings, means being freed from the burden of sin. When you are freed from the burden of sin, you will experience an indescribable calm from the inside. The calm rests upon every child of God at the time of salvation. You are not working for that peace, but it comes to you because you are in harmony with God. Connection with God, who were once separated from God because of sin, is now reconnected with God.

Peace

The condition of sinners, when separated from Christ, is estranged from promised covenants and without God in the world. But all who have thought Jesus Christ as their Lord and savior have also received God’s peace. The Harmony with God is beyond all understanding.

There is nothing to worry about and in all situations, through prayer and petition,  present your requests to God. The peace of God, which surpasses everything, will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.

The Bible says incredible things about the peace of God.

  1. The birth of Jesus Christ brought the peace of God to the earth.
  2. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and we can experience God’s peace here on earth through him.
  3. He told his disciples that he left peace for everyone. His peace is different from the peace the world bestows.
  4. God has promised peace to his people if they keep his commandments and obey his laws.
  5. Peace was part of the priestly blessing God commanded Aaron and his sons through Moses to give Israel.
  6. God’s peace allows us to sleep and stay safe.
  7. Those who love God’s word have God’s peace, and they can never be offended. To stumble means to fall into sin or error or make a mistake.
  8. When the Lord pleases someone, he brings peace to his enemies.
  9. The wicked will not know the peace of God.
  10. The peace of the Lord gives long life and brings good things.

Jesus Christ

The only thing you should do to experience God’s peace is to confess your sins and believe Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. Then, pray if you want to invite Christ into your heart and experience God’s peace. If you have prayed sincerely, I rejoice with you and welcome you into the family of God. Our fear turns to peace because Jesus gave us peace, which remains. After all, we now have peace with the Father. As we experience eternal peace through reconciliation with God in Christ, we also receive the gift of his Holy Spirit. Through him, we enjoy the blessing of peace in our daily lives, even when we are in turmoil.

Inspiring Bible Verses about Faith

October 25, 2022
Bible Verses

Faith and hope are the two pillars in life that keep us going forward, with the expectation of something good to come along the way. Being a believer in this money-centric world is a huge challenge, not only mentally but also socially. The regular ups and downs in life can even raise doubts in a staunch believer’s mind. However, countless Bible verses help believers reignite faith in God and illuminate their knowledge.

If you’re looking for such verses, you have landed on the right page as we have jotted down inspiring Bible verses about faith.

Matthew

Verses from Matthew have helped people worldwide restore their faith in God through the Holy Bible. It has ignited new hops in old as well as new generations.

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Matthew 9:2

“Take heart, my son, as your sins are forgiven.”

Matthew 15:28

It talks about the faith of women, which helps them achieve whatever they desire.

Matthew 21:22

“Whatever you as in prayer, you will receive if you have faith.”

John

John 3:16 comprises the best verses for people to have faith and reignite faith in God.

John 8:24

It says that if a person does not believe that Jesus is God, then the person will die of his sins.

John 7:38

“Whoever believes in me, rivers of living water will flow within him.”

John 5:5

“Who will overcome the world? Only the one who believes in Jesus is the Son of God.”

Romans

Romans have explained the power of having faith and how the path of faith in God can take us to different heights. The format of Roman verses speaks to the hearts.

Romans 10:17

“Faith comes from hearing through the words of God.”

Romans 10:9

“If you believe that Jesus is God, believe in your heart that God raised him from death, and you will be saved.”

Romans 1:17

“Righteousness ill live by faith.”

Ephesians

The verses by Ephesians impart the idea of grace and love in God. They also explain faith and how the love for Jesus will save us from the agony of life.

 

grace and loveEphesians 2:8-9

“The faith of the grace has saved you, and this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.”

Ephesians 6:16

“In all the circumstances, take up the path of faith, with which you can extinguish all flames of the evil one.”

James

James’ verses offer new levels of perspective for people undergoing turmoil in life. His words give hope to people and lead them on the path of faith.

James 1:5-6

“If you need wisdom, ask God, and he will give it to you.

James 1:2-4

“Whenever trouble comes your way, you should consider it an opportunity of joy. Likewise, endurance also has a chance to grow when faith is tested.”

Five reasons why stroker toys will be your best friend

October 24, 2022October 24, 2022

When it comes to self-pleasure, we all seem to have discovered all tips and tricks. Males start pleasuring themselves somewhere between 12-15 years of age. Therefore, by the time they reach their sexual maturity at 15-20 years of age, they become pretty confident in their ability to orgasm. However, with the advent of technology, new gadgets have started popping up every other fortnight, giving men new ways to self-pleasure.

One such innovative toy is the stroker toy. Stroker toys, also known as male masturbators, are simple devices that emulate the feeling of penetrative sex. Be it a wet tight sensation of a tight pussy or the insane pleasures of a sloppy blowjob, you get to experience everything with just a single toy.

 

In this article, I give you five golden reasons why you MUST have a stroker toy. These realistic masturbators will spice up your sex life like never before and will soon be your true best friend.

 

Am I qualified enough to comment on stroker toys?

 

Well, with an experience of 15 years of reviewing sex toys and writing thousands of adult articles, I think I am well qualified to comment on the recent developments in sex toys in general. As far as stroker toys or realistic masturbators are concerned, I consider myself a connoisseur of sex toys. Hence it is only fair that I have had over a dozen strokers lying in my cupboard.

 

Therefore, with decades of experience writing adult blogs and using realistic masturbators, I consider myself qualified to have an opinion on these modern-day beauties.

 

Five reasons why you should have a stroker toy:

 

  • Realistic AF!
    You would be surprised to see how incredibly realistic these stroker toys tend to be. The renowned toys have intricate textures on their inner lining that perfectly emulate the vagina. With ribs, dots, and other artifacts, you are in for a fantastic session every time you use realistic masturbators. Get one at Twice Tonight. 
  • Ability to switch up things.
    Many guys, like me, tend to get bored very quickly. I get tired of using the same masturbation technique after a week. But with stroker toys, you can switch up the sensation very easily.
    Almost every aspect of strokers is customizable, from the heating sensation to rhythms to the inner texture. So change it as frequently as you desire, and you experience a fresh sensation every time. 
  • Waterproof
    Most realistic masturbators have an IPX7 rating. This means that you can now shift your naughty session to your bathroom. Sit in the tub or float in the pool and enjoy your sessions with some waterplay. You’ll indeed thank me for this. 
  • Forget the hassles of courtship!
    Let’s be honest here. Tinder isn’t for everyone or picking up girls at the club. You’ve to be the coolest and sassiest dude in the club to pick up the chicks you desire. Even then, you wouldn’t know if she’s going to give you the V or not.
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  • Biosafe in every aspect
    Even if you find a partner to jump in bed with, staying infection-free is a big concern. These days one can quickly get a buffet of infectious diseases with simple sexual contact.
    The stroker toys remove all such fears. Here you get to enjoy yourself for as long as you desire. No fear of any infection or STD! 
  • Bonus Point: Affordable and discreet
    Stroker toys are the most affordable and discreet options to emulate the actual sensation of sex. You can find a good toy for as low as $30.
    But my advice would be to shell out a few more dollars to get a better one.
    You will cherish this one-time investment all your life, so don’t be too frugal about it.
    Lastly, unlike girls, your device won’t gossip with others about how you are in bed. So if you’ve any secrets to hide, it’ll stay safe between you and your stroker toy! *wink wink*

 

All these point to one fact: Stroker Toys are a man’s best friend.

If you’re still confused about whether to get one for yourself or not, I’d say take your leap of faith in me and buy one. Use it for a month, and you’ll be surprised to see how incredible this toy is. Not only will it take care of your sexual health, but it will also boost your confidence. So go ahead and grab a realistic masturbator right now!

 

 

Here is Why Millennium Development Goals Need the Church

September 9, 2022August 29, 2022
Millennium Development

The United Nations Millennium Summit, which took place in 2000 and saw the ratification of the United Nations Millennium Proclamation, resulted in the establishment of the eight international development targets known as the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) for the calendar year 2015. The OECD DAC International Development Objectives adopted by Cooperation Secretaries in the “Defining the 21st Century Plan” served as the foundation for these. The MDGs were replaced with the Goals for Sustainable Development (SDGs) later on.

They are a follow-up.

The United Nations established the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) in September 2000 as a set of global objectives to improve the state of the globe. The year 2015 was set as the timeframe for achieving every one nine MDGs. Even though they haven’t been huge hits, they have been relatively profitable.

They have grown.

The widespread view is that there are several topics that the MDGs did not mention that ought to be addressed. As a result, 17 SDGs and 169 objectives have been suggested following a worldwide discussion encompassing more than 70 nations.

Civility: Bringing a stop to gender stereotypes and destitution.

Individuals: Providing that everyone has access to the top schooling and leads a healthier lifestyle free from starvation.

World: Ensuring that everyone has access to safe water and effective hygiene while also combating environmental issues.

Cooperation: For the successful execution of sustainable development, the international collaboration must be strengthened.

Righteousness is the promotion of secure, tranquil, and effective institutions. Happiness is the creation of healthy, creative industries on a global scale, the reduction of inequality, the provision of adequate employment for all, and the pursuit of inclusive, secure, and durable communities.

It’s time to conduct business.

The MDGs were considered as being primarily driven by authorities and non-profit organisations engaged in capacity building. This season, the financial sector is anticipated to contribute to accomplishing the goals because some of them are connected to productivity expansion.

advancement

Further than assistance, a thriving economy may help people escape poverty. The economy can only accomplish so much; it cannot solve all problems in fragile states and nations with very low levels of advancement.

Conclusion

The SDGs promote the expansion of the global compassion for the underprivileged. Their success is dependent just as much on how we as folks and congregations manage our finances, the causes we support, and the purchases we choose. A new, inclusive, and innovative paradigm for the environment, the SDGs. Even though some of the SDGs build on the advantages of the BMS, others will force us to find fresh solutions to problems that may arise in the upcoming decades.

Why is it Important to Have Sacrificial Love?

August 18, 2022August 27, 2022
Sacrificial Love

Jesus taught us that real love is self-sacrificing. He gave His life as a sacrifice so that we might find redemption. He nonetheless made the decision to sacrifice in our stead, although His selfless deed resulted in agony and sorrow.

Love Is More Than Simply an Emotion

Most individuals believe that love is merely a sensation. Love merely refers to a pleasant or delightful emotion when seen as an emotion. If love is merely a feeling, individuals may drift both into and out of it. The Bible, though, presents an alternative viewpoint.

Reflecting God's love

Love is much more than an emotion. You carry out this action. “Dear Children, let us not love with words or speech but with acts and in reality,” the apostle John writes in his epistle, serves as a reminder of this reality (1 John 3:18). Whenever we admire someone, it shows in the manner we behave and conduct ourselves around them (James 2:16; 1 John 3:17).

Reflecting God’s love via our deeds is one way we can do that. He did not only show love will toward people and wish well for us. As an alternative, “God demonstrated his immense love for us by delivering Christ to die for us while we were still sinners” (Romans 5:8, NLT).

Jesus Christ embodies the most love a person can ever know. We can freely accept His salvation offer if we put our confidence in Him because He decided to die in the place of sinful mankind (Ephesians 2:5, 8-9).

Here is how to practice it

Take time to pay attention.

Ecclesiastes 3:7, which talks about self-sacrificial love, teaches us that there is “a moment to remain silent and a moment to voice.” Whenever it pertains to voicing your ideas, love implies giving something up. Listening to your partner without interjecting rather than disagreeing with them.

In addition to demonstrating love and respect, the ability to listen will enhance relationships and communication and increase your spouse’s level of comfort while sharing their emotions with you.

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Spare some time

Your leisure is one item you can give up for your loved ones, including your acquaintances, family, and kids. Self-care is crucial, and that includes taking time for yourself, although one of the most precious things you can offer others is your attention and affection.

Create a strong sense of compassion

Empathy for your partner will strengthen your marriage and take it to greater levels. It enables you to see things from someone else’s point of view and make choices that are good for both you and your spouse. When couples are able to put their self in each other’s situations, their emotional connection is improved.

 

God’s Table: Playing Musical Chairs and Losing

January 11, 2013August 23, 2022
God's Table

I’m a pastor for a Christian denomination where communion is one of only two sacraments observed. It’s pretty important to us.

Recently with the debate over homosexuality in the church, including membership, ordination, same-sex marriage, etc., communion has frequently defined the analogy for the debate. It often appears in the form of ‘how do we be inclusive and welcoming of all people to the table?’

As our society has made strides in social and legal equality for those LGBTQ persons who have been historically disenfranchised, the church has lagged behind and struggled with not only a debate of basic, fundamental rights for the LGBTQ community, but also has had to deal with religious, scriptural and ecclesial questions. It’s not just ‘is it right?’, but ‘is it right in the eyes of God and in our faith tradition?’

In our denomination, I have heard a question related to LGBTQ equality in the Christian Church expressed using the table analogy. That question distills to something like this: ‘If we embrace the liberal perspective and make room at the table for LGBTQ persons, are we pushing away from the table the more conservative folks, who in many instances have tolerated the change at the table as we made room for those who had been disenfranchised?’

An interesting question, but one that has some assumptions and presumptions that must be addressed to honestly answer the question of including in the faith process versus excluding (and pushing some away from) the faith process.

It has to do with an economics concept: that of Nash equilibria (John Nash, the real-life subject of the movie, “A BRILLIANT MIND,” and Nobel-winning economist) and zero-sum versus non-zero sum games (or economies or life, for that matter). Zero-sum and non-zero sum, even if you’ve never heard of them, are very important to our fundamental understanding of the nature of God and omnipotence. A zero sum game like Monopoly assumes that if one person wins another must loose. There are a finite set of resources and players compete for them. A zero sum game must end in a win-lose manner. A non-zero sum game like The Prisoner’s Dilemma assumes that there are not limited resources and that players can play the game, collaborate and orchestrate a win-win ending.

I’d like to suggest – again not addressing the issues that have been debated regarding liberal/conservative and why we’ve had to ‘make room at the table’ —our society and culture tends to be ‘zero sum’ and to perceive life as having a fixed, finite set of resources for which we must compete. And therefore, if someone ‘gets’ another person must ‘lose.’ Our national economies and our personal economies are generally built on zero-sum assumptions. Negotiations, competitions for jobs, personal economic transactions, etc. all speak to a notion that we have to do better than the next person, because if we are to win, it will be at their expense and vice-versa.

Now—we run into a real puzzle when we ascribe zero-sum thinking to faith journey. Basically, if we adhere to a conventional and scriptural understanding of God as infinite and omnipotent, it is not possible to ‘push someone away from the table.’ God’s table can accommodate everyone. That means that making room for someone at the table or pushing someone away from the table must encompass two aspects that have to be examined: first, what is the nature of God’s table, through Jesus Christ, exemplified by Jesus’ example and teaching? Are there limitations? Most important, is the table in any way exclusive? Is there anyone who cannot be accommodated at the table? Does God set a table where mutual exclusivity can exist? Is it possible that if one person/group/identity is permitted at the table, another person/group/identity must be denied? Can mutual exclusivity be applied to any two persons/groups/identities within God’s creation?

Can we—in any way—assess the breadth, depth and elasticity of God’s ability to accommodate all the diverse components of creation? Even if we were able to discern whom God, through Jesus Christ would accept/reject, is that our purview? Basically, how do we decide if God’s love is zero-sum, or even can approximate zero-sum, with some being permitted ‘at the table’ meaning that others cannot be present?

A completely separate issue is the second aspect: If we decide, ‘yes, God’s table will accommodate some and not others,’ who fits which category? That’s where most of the equality/inequailty debate in the church today has centered. But the reality is: are we trying to retrofit belonging to a belonging template that doesn’t exist? Have we rushed so haphazardly to decide who is worthy and who is not worthy that we have ignored the fact that such debate seems to limit God and to set our human, finite, limited understanding as the model for God’s table?

Is zero-sum and mutual exclusivity a function of our societal and cultural existence that has slopped over into our definition of God’s nature and how God conducts ‘business’ with humankind? And if that’s true, is it legitimate and defensible? Our understanding of the nature of God needs to be addressed and understood before we begin contemplation of someone being pushed away from God as a result of human perceptions and actions.

Maybe, just maybe, God’s table is larger than our ability to imagine and more accommodating than we can possibly conceive. Here’s hoping . . .

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